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15 Ways To Destroy Your Marriage

September 19, 2009 · 1 Comment

#1 – Have an affair! (II Samuel 11-12)

#2 – Refuse to run from tempting situations! (Genesis 39:1-12, I Corinthians 6:18)

#3 – Look at LOTS of porn! (Job 31:1)

#4 – Connect with “old flames” through online social networking and then convince yourself it is ok because you aren’t actually doing anything wrong!

#5 – Refuse to talk to your spouse about issues that make you angry…just bury them and let a huge pile build up so that you can explode irrationally on them when they totally do not expect it. (Ephesians 4:25-27)

#6 – Have an affair!!!

#7 – Make sure you spend lots of person time with the same person of the opposite sex that you are not married to…and when confronted on it say, “It’s business.”

#8 – Make “innocent” remarks to an attractive person of the opposite sex such as, “I wish I had met you before I had gotten married.”

#9 – Put an ad for yourself on an internet dating site…even though you are married…just to see what type of interest you could create!

#10 – Compare your spouse with other people OFTEN and convince yourself that you didn’t get God’s best when you agreed to marry him/her.

#11 – Have an affair!!!

#12 – Take your cues about sexual morality from Hollywood and your “friends” rather than God’s Word. (John 14:15)

#13 – Begin to believe that your spouse’s main mission on this planet should be to meet your needs…and when they don’t then justify trying to get your needs met elsewhere.

#14 – Fantasize often as to what it would be like to be with another person other than your spouse.

#15 – Be willing to sell out years of marriage, the respect of your children and your character for an orgasm.

Categories: Marriage

When Sex Leaves the Marriage

June 22, 2009 · Leave a Comment

From Tara Parker-Pope of the NY Times:

“Married men and women, on average, have sex with their spouse 58 times a year, a little more than once a week, according to data collected from the General Social Survey, which has tracked the social behaviors of Americans since 1972.

But there are wide variations in that number. Married people under 30 have sex about 111 times a year. And it’s estimated that about 15 percent of married couples have not had sex with their spouse in the last six months to one year, according to Denise A. Donnelly, associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University, who has studied sexless marriage.” [emphasis mine]

Question:

Why does a marriage become sexless? Does it start that way? Or does sex fade?

Answer:

“The answer to that one is both. Some of the people in our sample never had much sex from the beginning, while others identified a particular time or event (childbirth, affair) after which sex slowed or stopped. Some people become accustomed to their spouse, bored even, and sex slows. For others, it is the demands of raising a family, establishing a career, and mid-adulthood.

And there are people who have very low sex drives, and may even be asexual. They may have some sex with their partners to begin with, but it becomes unimportant to them (and usually not so unimportant to their spouses). These folks may also be dealing with guilt, issues with the human body, or feel that sex is “dirty” or only for procreation. A small number of couples showed a mixed pattern, where they would have periods of “feast” and of “famine.”

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HT: Adrian Warnock

Categories: Marriage
Tagged: Marriage, Relationships, Sexuality